Tuesday, September 10, 2013

Losing Your Beloved

Many people say that marriage is the hardest part of life. It is not. Surviving the death of your beloved requires more work, deeper suffering, and greater endurance than marital bliss ever asked from anyone.

Surviving your beloved is excruciating and arduous. Experts in the study of grief have expressed theory upon theory to aid survivors through this journey. The fact remains however, that theory is not fact. In searching for a yellow brick road to recovery, you must realize, as did Dorothy and her cohorts, that you already possess the strength and ability to survive. Identify your strengths and cultivate them. Utilize your abilities and realize that you are the only one capable of surmounting your grief. From this point forward, it is your job to continue onward without the companionship of your beloved. You must redefine your role in a myriad of life’s situations as your own provider, your own protector, and your own strategist. If your loss is recent, it will take some time before you are able to embark on your proactive road to recovery.

Centuries ago, society required survivors to wear black for one year after the death of their loved ones. From this tradition, we wonder, does it take only one year to recover from the loss of a lifetime of love? Grief is the price we pay for the gift of love. I wish I could tell you that one year of grief is all that you will suffer. I cannot. If you loved your spouse with the depth of your soul, grief may forever be your unwelcome companion.

My name is Tracy Renee Lee. I am a funeral director, author and freelance writer. It is my life's work to comfort the bereaved and help them live on.

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