Wednesday, December 25, 2013

Suicide Victims

Suicide is tragic and it spikes around the holidays each year.  As a funeral director, I see families suffering suicide loss year after year.  Not only are they suffering the loss of their loved one, they are suffering an internal strife of blame and guilt. 

 The holiday season is a time full of tradition and family heritage.  Depressed individuals generally complain of feeling empty inside and alone.  With the rich focus on belonging and love at this time of year, those suffering depression may not be able to endure the activities, traditions and heritage surrounding them.  The juxtaposition of their feelings or perceptions, to the merry holiday festivities, may indeed lead them to end their life.  To endure such an extreme loss at this time of year is particularly harrowing.

Nearly 750,000 individuals commit suicide yearly (Worden, 2009).  Statistics show that those who have suffered a suicidal loss may be at risk of suicide themselves.  If you have thoughts of suicide, or if you are contemplating such an action, immediately seek intervention.  Do not hint or allude to your intentions or difficulties.  Be specific and immediately reach out to a medical or suicide intervention facility.  Dial 911, tell them you need help, get yourself to the emergency room, and allow someone to intervene for you.  Remember, although you might not love yourself, you are loved by others.  Even though you cannot recognize it now, you have value, and there will be those who will sorely mourn your loss.  

Depression can be a deadly condition, but it is also preventable.  The goal in crime-prevention is to separate the criminal from the victim, before a heinous crime is committed.  In suicide, the victim and the perpetrator are the same person.  Physically, it is impossible to separate them.  Psychological and medical interventions are very effective anti-crime tools for thwarting suicide.  If an alert individual is able to identify a suicidal person, or if a suicidal person will identify him or herself and seek help, a life may be saved, a crime may be prevented, and a family may remain whole.

My name is Tracy Renee Lee.  I am a funeral director, author, and freelance writer.  I write books, weekly bereavement articles, and mid-week grief briefs related to understanding and coping with grief.  It is my life's work to comfort the bereaved and help them live on. 

Please follow my blog at Twitter account  @PushnUpDaisies,  visit my or read my book “Pushin’ Up Daisies” for additional encouragement and information.