The holidays are over and everyone has gone home. If you have lost a loved one during the holidays, you may suddenly find yourself all alone. Friends and family are now busy getting back into their usual routines of school, work and children, yet your usual routine has been forever changed.
Sadness after the holidays is not unusual. Many people are disappointed with the gifts they did or did not receive, they are sad to leave family that they love and miss throughout the year and many people are just sad to return to their miserable lives. Sadness in and of itself is not dangerous, but when it turns from sadness to depression, danger lurks and abounds.
Survivors who have lost a loved one during the holidays are at an incredible disadvantage. Life has forever changed for them and in particular, so too has the holiday. For the rest of the survivor’s life, this particular holiday will always be a reminder of their loss. In addition, all of those around the survivor will be in the thralls of holiday spirit, yet the survivor will be estranged from the gaiety. This exuberance and joy will inevitably weigh heavily upon the survivor, making recovery just that much more difficult.
If you have lost someone this holiday season, do not worry about the holidays next year. Focus on recovery now. You have a full year before you will experience the holidays again, so work on feeling better now, in the present. If you feel you need help, seek out a support group, your clergy, or if necessary, a professional counselor. Life is going to be difficult for quite some time, but eventually, with determination and hard work, it will become bearable again.
My name is Tracy Renee Lee. I am a funeral director, author and professional speaker. I write books and weekly bereavement articles related to understanding and coping with grief. I am the American Funeral Director of the Year Runner-Up and recipient of the BBB’s Integrity Award. I deliver powerful messages and motivate audiences on their "Road to Recovery". It is my life's work to comfort the bereaved and help them live on.