I buried a young man this weekend. He died before his time. He was on the cusp of becoming an adult; however, his youth had been stolen from him. He was diagnosed with brain cancer at a very young age and had lived the greater part of his life fighting this dreaded disease.
He died in a different state and came to me for burial. His family traveled a great distance to be here with him when he went into his grave. They were sad, but they had prepared for this tragedy in their lives. They had taken time out of their everyday livess and had dedicated themselves to his last few years.
Now that he is gone, each family member has special memories that are unique to their hearts. There are no regrets of behavior or selfishness. There is sadness; there will always be sadness. One cannot avoid sadness at the passing of a loved one. They will each travel through the dreaded stages of grief, but they will have sweet experiences and memories to draw upon for comfort. In offering comfort to their young family member, they inadvertently gave themselves the greatest gift possible; memories to draw upon for comfort.
Not every family has advanced notice of impending death, yet every family has the opportunity to spend precious moments together. Why do we wait for tragedy to make time to share together? Because one never knows when their last moment on earth will strike, there are many things I would suggest we do with those we love. Of paramount importance however, today, I suggest you make time to spend precious moments with those you love. Do not let your life on earth slip away wishing you had just one more moment to quickly say, “I love you” to those who deserve to hear such tender words.
Take time and vow to do something to let those you love know and feel your love for them. Get off the computer, turn off the singing competition, put the electronic games away and for heaven’s sake, let go of the coliseum sports. Turn instead to those who if they were gone tomorrow would crumble your world. Do not waste one more moment on social media with social friends. Spend real time making real memories with those you really love.
That is what Zac’s family did. That is what will get them through his death.
My name is Tracy Renee Lee. I am a funeral director, author and professional speaker. I write books and weekly bereavement articles related to understanding and coping with grief. I am the American Funeral Director of the Year Runner-Up and recipient of the BBB’s Integrity Award. I deliver powerful messages and motivate audiences on their "Road to Recovery". It is my life's work to comfort the bereaved and help them live on.